Episode Summary: In this episode, I introduce the powerful term “perspecticide” — the killing of someone’s perspective through psychological manipulation and coercive control. I explore how survivors of long-term abuse (domestic violence, ritual abuse, growing up with alcoholic parents) often struggle to trust their own reality, and how this directly impacts the voice and authentic self-expression. I share insights on why healing the throat chakra requires rebuilding trust in yourself and your truth.
Key Topics Covered:
Why “perspecticide” is a more accurate term than “gaslighting”
The three types of abuse that create vulnerability to coercive control
How survival mode hijacks the nervous system and creates chronic tension
Why abuse survivors struggle with self-expression (it’s not just fear — it’s lost trust in one’s own perspective)
The chakra system as a framework for understanding blocked expression
Why women leave abusive relationships an average of 6-8 times before leaving for good
Reclaiming sovereignty over your voice, breath, and truth
Quotable Moments:
“Perspecticide is the killing of someone’s perspective — the manipulation of the way they view reality.”
“You can always tell when someone asks ‘why don’t they just leave?’ — it’s because they’ve never been in that situation.”
“If one chakra is out of tune, the whole instrument sounds off.”
“Sovereign means totally in control of your will, your perspective, your breath, your truth, your voice.”
Practices Mentioned:
Vocal warm-ups and muscle stretching
The audible sigh for releasing chest tightness
Breathwork for returning to center
Journaling, singing, songwriting, poetry, art-making
Throat chakra mantra: “I speak my truth”
Journal Prompt: Where in your life have you stopped trusting your own perspective? What truth are you afraid to speak — even to yourself?
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